TikTok says men will think of Rome. What are women thinking? | Private Equity Weekly

TikTok’s viral trend last year showed that male consumption a lot of The intelligence of the Roman Empire. But more worryingly, many women say their #RomanEmpire, the thing occupying their brain space, is their own personal safety. They fear being attacked, raped, kidnapped and murdered – fears that date back to before the collapse of public government 2,000 years ago.

according to business insiderit all started with Roman Reenactors Gaius Flavius Suggest his 100,000 Instagram Followers believe that women ask the men in their lives what they think of the Roman Empire.

As Flavius ​​predicted, their response was surprising. They reportedly recorded the conversation and posted it on social media, creating a viral trend and racking up hundreds of millions of views. time.

saturday night live Last December, Jason Momoa poked fun at the trend by singing a full-length song about men, Roman life, and all the obsessive, intrusive thoughts that seem to monopolize men’s minds.

According to reports, in September InsiderTikToker Danyelle Leyden flips the script and asks what the female version of #RomanEmpire is response video.

Unlike the interesting astrological advice from Saturday Night Live on the list, most women responded that murder, kidnapping, and the Salem Witch Trials occupied real estate in their minds.

The more I researched the subject, the more I talked about it with other women, and it seemed to follow a pattern. Some of the things women think about every day have nothing to do with philosophy or the fall of empires from 2,000 years ago. Instead, everything they do is to get through the day safely.

When I think about the Roman Empire now, I can’t help but think of the similarities between our industry and the problems we face now. Rome’s decline had many causes: corruption, overreach of power, and invasions by outsiders who believed that Rome’s power went too far. To be honest, it felt a little too close to home.

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There is nothing romantic about these topics. Still, these issues dominate Inman’s headlines as we report on alleged incidents of sexual harassment, assault and murder of women in the industry.

This is our Roman Empire: Thinking about our clothing, personal safety, and whether this affects our business and success.

Clothing major

It’s been said over and over again: If you want people to take you seriously and work with you, you have to dress appropriately. This summer, in a popular real estate planning group on Facebook, a young agent posted that she lost a client because his wife made her uncomfortable interacting with her husband.

The problem was her body and appearance, even before she had a chance to demonstrate her customer service skills and expertise.

Since then, her posts have spiraled out of control. Agents gave good advice, and agents offered criticism, but nearly everyone agreed that she needed to change her sexual behavior if she didn’t want to lose clients. To be honest, this advice is spread throughout the industry just for the sake of “professionalism”.

New agents are informed of the following:

• Do not make eye contact with your husband
• always talk to wife
• Wearing a fake wedding ring
• cover up
• Don’t wear makeup during meetings
• Make sure your profile is not too sexy

Notably, few commented that it was the married couple’s responsibility to remain faithful during the real estate transaction, not the agent trying to help them find a home. No one pointed out that working with couples shouldn’t involve any threats based on your appearance.

(If you want to learn more about what agents wear or shouldn’t wear, feel free to check out “I’m a real estate agent.You can’t tell me what to wear to work,” and feel free to weigh in.)

Here are some other fun tips on how to dress for listings, open houses and showing appointments

• Make sure you wear shoes that are suitable for running if necessary.
• Wear this beautiful thing tracking device designed Jewelry so we can find you if you are taken away.
• Dress professionally, but don’t wear expensive jewelry or brands as you might get mugged.
• Always keep your phone fully charged and in your pocket.

party problem

In January, I profiled the drinking culture in our industry, which is often joked about but not discussed enough. Women are particularly vulnerable and not only face higher health risks, but may also become victims of sexual or physical assault when drinking alcohol.

Debra Cumming exist New York Times The last year has seen many tough issues addressed for women in our industry, including open dayallegedly sexual harassment At the highest levels of the NAR, and most horrifyingly, it was said sexual assault at industry events.

More women keep coming forward. Many people remain silent because they are worried about their careers and businesses.

At Inman, we cover these stories too, but it’s important to note that consumers are now learning more about the dark side of our industry; this is no longer just industry-specific news coverage. Not only do these stories need to be told, but they are an important part of advocating for change.

In our Roman Empire it’s predator versus prey and you have to stay alert.

missing and murdered

Last year, I wrote an article about Special Agent Anna Walsh, who disappeared after celebrating the New Year with family and friends. Who reported her missing? Her real estate agency, she didn’t show up for work four days later. How many days does it take for your agency to know you are missing?

Nine out of 10 women were murdered in 2020 The men were killed by people they knew, according to the Violence Policy Center (VPC), a national think tank. In nearly two-thirds of the cases, the woman was the man’s wife or other intimate partner.

So when women say they think about being kidnapped or murdered every day, I believe them. Unfortunately, Anna Walsh was never found. Her husband is the prime suspect and is awaiting trial on first-degree murder charges.

The murder of women has become so normalized in our culture that some women use it as a joke on social media and they keep a copy of the information about themselves for the news media to use in the event they go missing, to help reporters Investigate who took them away.

stranger danger

My car has automatic locks, but I always hit them again when I’m in the car, even before I put my seatbelt on. If I forget my phone, I panic and have to turn around and go home to find it.

I’ve written a lot about knocking on doors. I honestly don’t think the risk of showing up at a stranger’s door—who may have a gun or be mentally unstable—is worth your own safety. Whether you have kids at home or a cat waiting for you, taking the chance to be at the right door at the right time can seem like a gamble.

The United Nations is reporting “Shadow Pandemic” Violence against women increases.

“Globally, it is estimated that 736 million womenOne in three people experience at least some form of physical and/or sexual violence in their lifetime,” the Forbes article stated, “Violence against women and girls today: one person dies every 11 minutes”.

It would be too much of a luxury not to consider personal safety at all times. The only way to begin to reverse the thinking of the Roman Empire, especially in the real estate industry, is to hold more people accountable for their actions.

Women can take action, step up and make the world a safer place to work. Let’s prioritize safety and start creating safer office environments, industrial events and public interactions. Don’t let fear for your personal safety take over the treasure of our hearts.

Rachael Hite is a former broker, business development professional, fair housing advocate, copy editor, and currently perfecting her long-term home selling game in a retirement community in Northern Virginia.You can contact her about life, marketing and business at Instagram